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Self Awareness

Self Awareness and Improvement

Choosing Your Reality

I claim MY own power, and I lovingly create MY own reality. I ask for more understanding so that I may knowingly and lovingly shape my world and my experiences. ~Louise L. Hay


It is amazing the power that one has to determine the reality we see. Whether is all doom and gloom, or sunshine and rainbows, how we choose to perceive the world can have a great impact on how we shape our lives and relationships.  I have always been amazed at the power people have to shape their lives and watching how some choose to use that power or the ones that don’t.  I am and always have been one to create my own reality, a day dreamer and constant optimist. It’s something that has been a part of me for as long as I can remember.

I work very hard to create the reality I want. I work on being the person that I wish to be. I work on remaining positive and being a positive influence on others. It’s not always easy to be the person you want to be. Sometimes there are sides of yourself that may not be so positive that want to rear their head. Those times are going to happen, but I feel it’s important to only allow those moments a certain amount of time before returning things to a more positive vein. To completely deny that other side of yourself and ignore it only teaches one to suppress that side, not control it.  It’s important to learn how to deal with all of your emotions so that when you are in a darker stage you still don’t do lasting damage to anything that you hold dear, be it in business or personal en devours.

Being more of an optimist, I tend to try and look on the bright side of things or if things are going badly, look for the things that happen to be going well. I look for the blessing in my life rather than all the negatives. I certainly could find plenty to bring me down and let it bring me down, but I don’t.  Honestly, I can’t. There’s too much good that I want out of  life, and I don’t want to miss it because I’m focused on the things that aren’t going well in my life.

Those who continually see things negatively tend to drive me crazy, and vice versa. They want to see the bad things, and I try to show them the good things.  It will probably always be a source of frustration; however, I can’t help being me anymore than they can help being themselves.

Sometimes the world really is what you make of it. I trying to make the best of my reality as possible. I have a good life. It may not be filled with riches, and it has more than it’s share of struggles, but I think I lead and amazing life.

What Are You Thinking?


It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed. ~I am not limited by my past thinking. I choose my thoughts with care. I constantly have new insights and new ways of looking at my world. I am willing to change and grow. ~Louise L. Hay


So much of our world and outlook is reflected in the way we think. We mold and shape our attitudes by what we think. And how we think can be contagious. Whether, it’s the individual who can’t see the positive in anything, or that bright shining personality that rarely has a bad thing to say about anything; they shape the world around them.


Thoughts ARE contagious; which, is why it’s so important to watch out for the thoughts of those around you. If you’re constantly around those that put everything down and think negatively, soon, that’s all you will see as well. Thankfully, the opposite is true, if you surround yourself with positive people and maintain a positive attitude yourself; soon, your entire world will be brighter.


Having a positive attitude takes work, not everyone appreciates someone who tries to see a silver lining in situations. It’s so much easier to pass the negativity around and blame others for the situation, rather than take control of the situation and CHANGE it. Change takes work, change takes responsibility. It requires us to be accountable for our own attitudes. Few want to take responsibility over themselves and they sure don’t like being accountable either. They want someone else to “fix” it. Whether that someone else is the “government” or a new “relationship”, life would be so much better if *insert entity here* where around to do it.


If you are trying and working towards maintaining a positive frame of mind, it is going to take work. It’s going to take telling people to take their negative thoughts elsewhere. There’s a reason there’s the saying “misery loves company”, because misery breeds misery. Don’t let it get a foothold in your life.


Great things happen EVERYDAY, if you are thinking and looking for them. Revel in the small victories and miracles that abound in the life around you. Whether, it’s the beauty in a sunset, the laughter of a child…or the simple fact that you somehow managed to juggle an armload of groceries, while balancing the mail on your head, and fiddling the key into the lock to get into the house. Look at your life, smile, laugh, and ENJOY it.


Ebbs and Flows

I am flexible and flowing. ~I am open to the new and changing. Every moment presents a wonderful new opportunity to become more of who I am. I flow with life easily and effortlessly. ~Louise L. Hay~

There are parts of this that I do so well, and others that require more mental work on my part. I am very flexible and go with the flow on things. Moving from project to project, taking what works and moving forward, and leaving behind that which doesn’t. I flow like a river with little diverges here and there, but still in a basic direction.  But then, I hit a dam.

It’s those times that I have some severe issues. When things are going along swimmingly and then suddenly you hit that thing that blocks your path. Not being able to see the path ahead I eddy and swirl around the block indecisive of where I should go or how to get past what’s in my way.

I am a worrier and over analyzer. It’s not that I fail to act on things. Once I make a decision, I go through with it with determination. But, I try to look at things from EVERY possible angle. I don’t mind risks; most great things in life require one to take a risk. I just like to minimize the level of risk as much as possible.

I find myself in one of those eddies right now. And to be honest, it’s not even one that I’ve arrived to yet. It’s just one I see coming. A choice I’m going to have to make. I’ve reached the point there my path needs to diverge again soon. And I need to take into considerations just where my river will go.

I’m sure I will have some help to get me past this little divergence. In fact, it’s that “help” that’s the unknown quantity that is causing me to swirl around in the land of what ifs and what abouts. And honestly, it’s why I’m best when it comes to relationships that I turn those things over. I’m so not good at dealing with them. I can guide my way through the things life puts in front of me…I can do them all, but one, I am no good at guiding myself in relationships. There are too many variables to consider and my brain goes nuts trying to think of every possible scenario that could come up.

I enjoy my stability of being on my own, even while longing to be part of another. It’s easy to be good enough for myself and not let myself down, but when you add another person’s expectations and then your own expectations of what you should be to them…yeah, I generally don’t measure up at least within my own eyes.

I know what I need to do in those times. That’s when I need to turn things over and stop thinking so much. But for me, that’s so much easier said than done. And it’s bad when you know yourself that you’re over analyzing a situation that doesn’t even exist yet. Sometimes, you just have to force yourself to go with the flow. It’s NOT always easy, but it’s always an adventure. I haven’t regretted my adventures yet, and I don’t see me starting to anytime soon.

Being Complete

I am totally adequate for all situations. I am one with the power and wisdom of the Universe. I claim this power, and it is easy for me to stand up for myself. ~Louise L. Hay

It always amazes me how many say that they aren’t complete until they are in a relationship. I just don’t understand that mindset. I have my yearnings fulfilled in the right relationship, but I am complete without as well. The only one that can make you whole is yourself. I’m not looking for someone to “fix” me or to even complete me. I am looking for someone who fulfills me.

I am complete as I am. I can direct and guide my life just fine. I just don’t like it. In fact, some of my biggest mistakes happen when I turn control of my life’s direction over to another. Unfortunately, that impulse and compulsion to turn things over is hardwired into my being. It’s learning and working to accept that I am complete as I am now, without having that other person that’s been a challenge.

By knowing that you are complete and adequate without another, that gives you the inner strength and power to NOT be someone’s door mat. It’s not a statement that really needs to be said as it will shine through everything that you do. There’s no need to shout “I am submissive hear me roar.”

I am assertive, stubborn, outspoken, and opinionated. I get excited and passionate about ideas and beliefs and love good debates. I do not like personal conflict and can’t stand stagnation. If I see an issue, I like being able to fix it. There’s nothing worse than seeing a problem and being unable to do anything about it. It generally leads to endless frustration.

Do You See Abundance?

I Prosper Wherever I Turn~I now see opportunities for abundance everywhere. I am blessed and prospered. ~Louise L. Hay

I am blessed with being able to see the opportunities ahead of me. I usually have four or five prospective projects in mind at any given time. I think it’s because I’m so focused on those positive opportunities that I rarely have time to dwell on the negative things that pop into my life. It is true that opportunities do abound if you are on the lookout for them.

This is not a skill I came to naturally. I had to learn to be open to it. It’s easy to dwell on the negative in life or to pass the blame   someone else for the life we led. It’s easy to forget that WE are the ones that lead our life there. Blaming others and the I can’ts are easy outs. We can wallow in fear because we don’t want to see the opportunities that are there. If we saw them, then we would have to take responsibility for not acting on them.

It takes great courage to not only see those opportunities but to pursue them. To pursue them requires risk and taking chances, there’s no stable foundation when you go after an opportunity. It’s an unknown, it could work or it could fail. It’s so much easier to not try. Better the fear you know than the fear you don’t. I can understand that mentality. I just don’t “get” it. Because, what if it does work; isn’t that worth the risk?

That last bit is what gets me hooked every time. What if it does work? Just stop and think about that for a moment. What if you had the chance to pursue one of those opportunities that you’re afraid to take on right now? I’m sure some will say that they can’t pursue those things because they have a lot to lose, okay, again I understand that. But what about what you have to WIN? And people DO win; simple ordinary people win every day and do extraordinary things. I want to BE one of those people. I don’t want to just exist, I want to LIVE and I want to be EXTRAORDINARY!

The Misty Road

There are so many roads to take in life. Some are safe and smooth others are pitted and bumpy and then there’s that road covered in mist and fog. It’s that road that has always intrigued me. That road shrouded in mist and mystery, which has always stirred my soul and challenged me with its silent presence to travel down it.  There’s never a road sign along that road, one is never quite sure where it will lead, and frankly, it would be too easy if there were. That road is always there, beckoning you, challenging you, do you walk down it and see what is being hidden by the mist, or do you choose the path that’s clearly laid before you?

The misty road shows up many times during our lives with the offer to take us down unmapped roads. There’s no GPS and no real destination in ahead. It shows up in those uncertain times be it work or romance related. Do you stay or go? What direction should you go? What is the life you are looking for? Many want certainty and stability, but who really knows if that road doesn’t open up to sunshine and a smooth and happy path? For some, it does work that way. They see that road pop up and they bravely take it. They seize the opportunity in front of them and confidently forge ahead. While others stay on the safe side, where they can see the road clearly and there are few if any surprises.

For me, I’ve always chosen that misty road. I’ve gone on some bumpy adventures on that road, but I can honestly say, that I’ve never regretted taking it. I have taken some very bumpy roads, the ones that you’re sure will leave you broken and scared before you can get off it. But, no matter how hard the road, it’s never broken me. As challenging as it was, I stood up to that road and returned its challenge. The road has taken me to the highest peaks. To the top of the mountains where the air is clear, the sky bright, and you can see the whole world laid out before you. If only every road took you up that high, unfortunately, many don’t. But oh, for the chance that it does. Those moments make every dark road worth traveling down.